Category Archives: Empowerment

Do I Want To Improve My Relationship With Myself?

5 Tips for Self-Honesty

The first step in moving ahead with any endeavor is being honest with yourself: Health – be it simply fitting into those old jeans or improving your posture, Wealth – whether financial or however else you may define wealth, or Romance – repairing a once perfect relationship. You must honestly answer the question “Do I Want To Improve My Relationship With Myself?”

Consider the following 3 strategies you can use as a guide and carry out the task of honesty to yourself:

1. First Things First

Write it out – whether, on a piece of paper or a journal, it doesn’t matter… Just be true to yourself. Reflect on what have you been dishonest about in the various aspects of your life. Write either a statement or a question keeping in mind who it is you are addressing (that being “Yourself). Your goal is to achieve a better, more honest relationship with “YOU”.

2. Don’t Be Limited To The Obvious – Dig Deeper

Fear is the biggest culprit of self-deception. Dig deep… deeper… a bit deeper. What is your greatest fear that holds you back from enjoying lasting and gratifying relationships or achieving your goals (weight loss is a tough one)? Is this fear concrete or just something created out of misguided perceptions?

Don’t allow fear to dictate who you are or what you should or shouldn’t do.

Weaving webs of deception require enormous amounts of energy and are not the healthiest thing you can do if you are to enjoy A Better Lifestyle… so Don’t!

Instead, focus your time and energy on solving the real problems at hand. You know, the ones you reflected on and jotted down on your list.

3. Stay Objective

Sugar-coating issues will not put you the path that will bear the results you need… Only honesty will do that for you.

4. Recognize The Good As Well As The Bad Within You

One habitual way we deceive ourselves is by overlooking the “imperfect” characteristics of our lives. Every now and then, it’s easier to look the other way and ignore issues instead of confronting them head-on.

Nonetheless, in all actuality overlooking issues throughout our life doesn’t solve them. It can even exacerbate the situation later on – in light of the fact that when we aren’t straightforward about our issues they can quickly become unmanageable. At that point what began as a trivial issue can turn into a considerably more concerning issue.

Speak openly and the truth about both the good and bad in your life. A level-headed conviction is a sound and sensible conviction.

5. Set Aside Time To Reflect

Allow yourself 5-10 minutes to reflect on the events that transpired in your day. Ponder on questions such as, “How did things go today? What did I do well? How might I be able to have improved the situation?”

Be frank with yourself, yet avoid being disparaging or being overcritical. The objective isn’t to hurt your self-confidence, but rather to take the particulars of the day and exploit them for a better tomorrow. Studies demonstrate that reflection assumes a key part of learning and critical thinking. When we give ourselves an opportunity to examine the experiences of our day, we can oftentimes leave with substantially greater knowledge and a clearer perception into how to enhance ourselves.

It’s important to understand and realise that “Honesty” requires daily commitment and practice – It is not something which one develops overnight, but rather, over time. The rewards being honest brings to one’s life more than compensate for the pains one may have to endure in the process.

There is no limit to what can be accomplished in life simply by practicing “Honesty”.

 

 

Forgiveness

We have all found ourselves confronted by someone who has caused us pain and suffering or we simply go through a very difficult period in our life but very few understand why this happens.

In a word…Karma.

There are different names for karma but whether you believe it or not, it does exist, both good and bad.

What is karma? often you will hear “what you reap you sow”, “what comes around goes around”,”For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction”. What does it all  mean?

For me, I have understood it to be an awareness of why we’re here and to learn from our past mistakes in this and previous lifetimes.

We need to be willing to take a step back from the situation and evaluate until there is an understanding without anger. Once this happens, we begin to learn why something has happened to then be able to move on. If we don’t learn and forgive, we will go through the same lesson until the cycle is complete (evaluate, forgive and learn).

 

God Tells Us it’s Time to Change

This week I was profoundly given an opportunity to change.

Sometimes we need to change but are afraid so we keep doing the thing(s) that makes us miserable. That is, until we’re forced to change.

Why are we afraid to change?

Just like Karma, we don’t get to choose what is best for us or what we think we deserve. Life will always know best and give us what we need.

The next time you get fired, lose money, end a relationship, just remember you will look back in the months after and be grateful for where you are at that moment.

Transform Your Mind

Benefits of Meditation. Science has shown that your mind and body benefits from taking time out of your daily life to shut down and meditate. The benefits of meditation are endless, but mantras for anxiety or sinking into deep relaxation with yoga nidra will help you feel centered. Your body will thank you!

Definition of meditation….

I often get told by students that they are unable to meditate because they can’t keep their mind still. My response is that a cultivated sitting practice takes time but there are other ways to mediate if you feel seated is too difficult.

It’s best to start with walking meditation or yoga/tai chi, sport, painting, sewing etc. Whatever requires you utmost mindful attention, will assist in preparing you to practice seated meditation.

The import part of this process is not to rush your progress as there is no competition to see who can get there the fastest or who knows more about it. It is a journey not a race.

Enjoy your journey.

 

 

Racing Through Life

We spend our days racing through life as if we are running around in a cloud of illusion.

What does this mean?

We are working so hard, missing time with our family and friends, just to have the latest of everything. Material possessions have become so important that we have forgotten the true value of life. We are no longer grateful for the small things (having a meaningful chat with a stranger, going out of our way to make someones day, sunshine, a smile, kindness).

It appears most people are searching for happiness by looking outward rather than within. How can we understand that the excitement of purchasing a material possession is not long lived therefore we need to keep buying more to keep that feeling.

It seems like a lifetime ago but I was in that rat race of wanting more and thankfully I suffered financially which meant I would learn the greatest lesson of all and I’m so grateful.

We are chasing that rush, the adrenaline, the excitement a false reality. If we simply looked within for happiness we would certainly reduce the need to buy the latest technology, must have the latest clothes, buying fancy cars and that new home with all the latest furniture.

I live with my wonderful Husband in our humble home, drive a simple car and buy second hand clothes and I’m probably the happiest I have been in all my life.

And lets not forget the health and beauty industry make alot money from people needing health supplements, joining the latest gyms, cosmetic treatments, makeup, weightloss trends, visits to the beautician etc.

I could touch on the topic of self esteem but will probably write about that in another post…stay tuned.

There are many ways to learn how to stay within and not look outward for happiness but regression and hypnosis therapy are a very useful tools and I would highly recommend.

Take the time to connect and spend some time on your own.