5 Tips for Self-Honesty
The first step in moving ahead with any endeavor is being honest with yourself: Health – be it simply fitting into those old jeans or improving your posture, Wealth – whether financial or however else you may define wealth, or Romance – repairing a once perfect relationship. You must honestly answer the question “Do I Want To Improve My Relationship With Myself?”
Consider the following 3 strategies you can use as a guide and carry out the task of honesty to yourself:
1. First Things First
Write it out – whether, on a piece of paper or a journal, it doesn’t matter… Just be true to yourself. Reflect on what have you been dishonest about in the various aspects of your life. Write either a statement or a question keeping in mind who it is you are addressing (that being “Yourself). Your goal is to achieve a better, more honest relationship with “YOU”.
2. Don’t Be Limited To The Obvious – Dig Deeper
Fear is the biggest culprit of self-deception. Dig deep… deeper… a bit deeper. What is your greatest fear that holds you back from enjoying lasting and gratifying relationships or achieving your goals (weight loss is a tough one)? Is this fear concrete or just something created out of misguided perceptions?
Don’t allow fear to dictate who you are or what you should or shouldn’t do.
Weaving webs of deception require enormous amounts of energy and are not the healthiest thing you can do if you are to enjoy A Better Lifestyle… so Don’t!
Instead, focus your time and energy on solving the real problems at hand. You know, the ones you reflected on and jotted down on your list.
3. Stay Objective
Sugar-coating issues will not put you the path that will bear the results you need… Only honesty will do that for you.
4. Recognize The Good As Well As The Bad Within You
One habitual way we deceive ourselves is by overlooking the “imperfect” characteristics of our lives. Every now and then, it’s easier to look the other way and ignore issues instead of confronting them head-on.
Nonetheless, in all actuality overlooking issues throughout our life doesn’t solve them. It can even exacerbate the situation later on – in light of the fact that when we aren’t straightforward about our issues they can quickly become unmanageable. At that point what began as a trivial issue can turn into a considerably more concerning issue.
Speak openly and the truth about both the good and bad in your life. A level-headed conviction is a sound and sensible conviction.
5. Set Aside Time To Reflect
Allow yourself 5-10 minutes to reflect on the events that transpired in your day. Ponder on questions such as, “How did things go today? What did I do well? How might I be able to have improved the situation?”
Be frank with yourself, yet avoid being disparaging or being overcritical. The objective isn’t to hurt your self-confidence, but rather to take the particulars of the day and exploit them for a better tomorrow. Studies demonstrate that reflection assumes a key part of learning and critical thinking. When we give ourselves an opportunity to examine the experiences of our day, we can oftentimes leave with substantially greater knowledge and a clearer perception into how to enhance ourselves.
It’s important to understand and realise that “Honesty” requires daily commitment and practice – It is not something which one develops overnight, but rather, over time. The rewards being honest brings to one’s life more than compensate for the pains one may have to endure in the process.
There is no limit to what can be accomplished in life simply by practicing “Honesty”.